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How to be authentic in therapy sessions

How to be authentic in therapy sessions

When you think about going to therapy, what comes to mind? Do you imagine needing to "have it all together" or only present your best, most polished self? Many of us feel the need to wear a mask or censor our true selves, even in that safe space.

But here's the thing - true growth and healing in therapy requires you to show up authentically as your full, imperfect self. As scary as it may feel to let your guard down and get real, it's the only way to make genuine progress.

In our daily lives, it makes sense to put on a brave face or filter what we share about ourselves. But that self-protective instinct can get in the way when you're trying to work through deep-rooted issues and patterns. Real transformation demands vulnerability and radical truth-telling.

By continually holding back or hiding parts of yourself, those aspects remain stuck in dysfunctional loops. They can't get worked through or integrated when they're locked away in secrecy and shame.


Peeling back layers

Imagine an onion, with layer upon layer around your most tender, authentic core. Therapy is the opportunity to start peeling back those layers, one by one. To stop censoring or burying those rawest parts of yourself, and allow them to finally be exposed and understood.

Yes, this level of vulnerability can feel excruciating at times. Our first instinct is often to recoil from dragging our insecurities, fears, and past wounds out into the light. But it's only when you make that courageous choice to be truly seen that profound healing can begin.

There's a powerful alchemy that transpires when you share your most guarded truths, and have them received with compassion instead of judgment. The more you reveal, the more light can flood in to integrate and reclaim those fragmented pieces of self.

Parts of you that may have been sectioned off or abandoned start getting warmly welcomed back into wholeness. Old narratives and coping patterns rooted in shame can shift. The unhealed corners of your psyche don't have to stay quarantined any longer.


The process of being radical

Of course, this process of continual unveiling won't happen overnight. Becoming radically real is a practice that builds upon itself. There may be layers you aren't ready to open up about yet, and that's okay. Trust that your defenses will keep lowering as you experience what it means to be fully accepted.

The goal isn't some final achievement of having divulged absolutely everything. It's about showing up with more transparency and openness each time, chipping away at the need to conceal or divide yourself.

Ultimately, by bringing your unguarded humanity into the therapeutic relationship, you get to experience what it feels like to belong completely. To drop the exhausting roles and masks, and simply be beheld in your imperfect yet radiant totality, with nothing left in hiding.

It's the precious journey of reuniting with your most authentic self. Of no longer abandoning or sectioning off parts of your core experience, but choosing courage over concealment so you can finally flourish anew.

When you think about going to therapy, what comes to mind? Do you imagine needing to "have it all together" or only present your best, most polished self? Many of us feel the need to wear a mask or censor our true selves, even in that safe space.

But here's the thing - true growth and healing in therapy requires you to show up authentically as your full, imperfect self. As scary as it may feel to let your guard down and get real, it's the only way to make genuine progress.

In our daily lives, it makes sense to put on a brave face or filter what we share about ourselves. But that self-protective instinct can get in the way when you're trying to work through deep-rooted issues and patterns. Real transformation demands vulnerability and radical truth-telling.

By continually holding back or hiding parts of yourself, those aspects remain stuck in dysfunctional loops. They can't get worked through or integrated when they're locked away in secrecy and shame.


Peeling back layers

Imagine an onion, with layer upon layer around your most tender, authentic core. Therapy is the opportunity to start peeling back those layers, one by one. To stop censoring or burying those rawest parts of yourself, and allow them to finally be exposed and understood.

Yes, this level of vulnerability can feel excruciating at times. Our first instinct is often to recoil from dragging our insecurities, fears, and past wounds out into the light. But it's only when you make that courageous choice to be truly seen that profound healing can begin.

There's a powerful alchemy that transpires when you share your most guarded truths, and have them received with compassion instead of judgment. The more you reveal, the more light can flood in to integrate and reclaim those fragmented pieces of self.

Parts of you that may have been sectioned off or abandoned start getting warmly welcomed back into wholeness. Old narratives and coping patterns rooted in shame can shift. The unhealed corners of your psyche don't have to stay quarantined any longer.


The process of being radical

Of course, this process of continual unveiling won't happen overnight. Becoming radically real is a practice that builds upon itself. There may be layers you aren't ready to open up about yet, and that's okay. Trust that your defenses will keep lowering as you experience what it means to be fully accepted.

The goal isn't some final achievement of having divulged absolutely everything. It's about showing up with more transparency and openness each time, chipping away at the need to conceal or divide yourself.

Ultimately, by bringing your unguarded humanity into the therapeutic relationship, you get to experience what it feels like to belong completely. To drop the exhausting roles and masks, and simply be beheld in your imperfect yet radiant totality, with nothing left in hiding.

It's the precious journey of reuniting with your most authentic self. Of no longer abandoning or sectioning off parts of your core experience, but choosing courage over concealment so you can finally flourish anew.

Advait Naik

Advait is the founder of Verba and works at the intersection of psychology, design and technology to create a product that can help humans be more self aware through clarity