What To Do When Your Therapist Is On Vacation

What To Do When Your Therapist Is On Vacation

Aug 18, 2024

Aug 18, 2024

Let's face it: your therapist going on vacation can feel like a punch to the gut. Just when you've finally opened up about your fear of abandonment, boom! They're off to Bali. But don't worry, I've been there, and I've got your back. Here's how to survive (and maybe even thrive) during your therapist's absence:

1. Raid Your Therapy Toolbox

Remember all those worksheets and exercises your therapist gave you? The ones gathering dust in your drawer? Dig them out. Whether it's a gratitude journal or a "thought challenging" worksheet, now's the time to put them to use. Pro tip: Set a daily reminder on your phone to actually do them. And don't forget that box breathing technique - inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4. Repeat until the urge to email your therapist's emergency contact subsides.

2. Create Your Own "Check In"

Schedule a specific time each week to check in with yourself. Find a quiet spot, make a cup of tea, and ask yourself, "How would my therapist handle this situation?" You might be surprised at how much of their wisdom you've internalized. Feel the urge to contact your therapist? Write an email or letter... but don't send it. Pour out all your thoughts and feelings. It's cathartic, and you'll have a ready-made agenda for your next session.

3. Embrace Healthy Distractions

Now's the perfect time to start that hobby you've been putting off. Always wanted to try knitting? Go for it. Just be prepared for some wonky-looking scarves. The goal isn't perfection; it's keeping your hands and mind busy. Create a playlist of songs that make you feel understood, empowered, or just plain good. My personal go-to? "Shake It Off" by Taylor Swift. Judge if you must, but have you tried feeling anxious while belting out "haters gonna hate"? Impossible.

4. Lean on Your Support Network (Wisely)

Not all friends are created equal when it comes to emotional support. Avoid calling your drama-loving friend who's likely to say, "OMG, your therapist abandoned you? That's terrible!" Instead, reach out to that level-headed friend who always seems to have their life together. You know, the one with the immaculate apartment and thriving houseplants.

Remember, surviving your therapist's vacation isn't just about getting through it—it's an opportunity to prove to yourself how far you've come. Your therapist isn't abandoning you for good. They're probably just sitting on a beach, sipping a piña colada, and low-key thinking about their clients (because therapists are just that dedicated). Before you know it, they'll be back, ready to help you unpack all the growth you've achieved in their absence.

And hey, if all else fails, there's always ice cream and Netflix. Sometimes, a little self-indulgence is the best therapy of all.

Let's face it: your therapist going on vacation can feel like a punch to the gut. Just when you've finally opened up about your fear of abandonment, boom! They're off to Bali. But don't worry, I've been there, and I've got your back. Here's how to survive (and maybe even thrive) during your therapist's absence:

1. Raid Your Therapy Toolbox

Remember all those worksheets and exercises your therapist gave you? The ones gathering dust in your drawer? Dig them out. Whether it's a gratitude journal or a "thought challenging" worksheet, now's the time to put them to use. Pro tip: Set a daily reminder on your phone to actually do them. And don't forget that box breathing technique - inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4. Repeat until the urge to email your therapist's emergency contact subsides.

2. Create Your Own "Check In"

Schedule a specific time each week to check in with yourself. Find a quiet spot, make a cup of tea, and ask yourself, "How would my therapist handle this situation?" You might be surprised at how much of their wisdom you've internalized. Feel the urge to contact your therapist? Write an email or letter... but don't send it. Pour out all your thoughts and feelings. It's cathartic, and you'll have a ready-made agenda for your next session.

3. Embrace Healthy Distractions

Now's the perfect time to start that hobby you've been putting off. Always wanted to try knitting? Go for it. Just be prepared for some wonky-looking scarves. The goal isn't perfection; it's keeping your hands and mind busy. Create a playlist of songs that make you feel understood, empowered, or just plain good. My personal go-to? "Shake It Off" by Taylor Swift. Judge if you must, but have you tried feeling anxious while belting out "haters gonna hate"? Impossible.

4. Lean on Your Support Network (Wisely)

Not all friends are created equal when it comes to emotional support. Avoid calling your drama-loving friend who's likely to say, "OMG, your therapist abandoned you? That's terrible!" Instead, reach out to that level-headed friend who always seems to have their life together. You know, the one with the immaculate apartment and thriving houseplants.

Remember, surviving your therapist's vacation isn't just about getting through it—it's an opportunity to prove to yourself how far you've come. Your therapist isn't abandoning you for good. They're probably just sitting on a beach, sipping a piña colada, and low-key thinking about their clients (because therapists are just that dedicated). Before you know it, they'll be back, ready to help you unpack all the growth you've achieved in their absence.

And hey, if all else fails, there's always ice cream and Netflix. Sometimes, a little self-indulgence is the best therapy of all.

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Advait Naik

Advait is the founder of Verba and is working at the intersection of psychology, design and technology to create Verba, an app that helps us be more self aware through clarity and communicate our life in therapy